Love is a skill, not a feeling | Alain de Botton: Full Interview
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Become a Big Think member to unlock expert classes, premium print issues, exclusive events and more: https://bigthink.com/membership/?utm_source=youtube&utm_medium=social&utm_campaign=yt_desc Subscribe to Big Think on YouTube ► https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvQECJukTDE2i6aCoMnS-Vg?sub_confirmation=1 Up next, The science of sex, love, and attachment | Dr. Helen Fisher: Full Interview ► https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ORAaaBevtT4 We want to believe that love is guided by instinct, and that following our heart will lead us to our ideal soulmate. Alain de Botton argues that our romantic lives are shaped more by the emotional patterns we learned in childhood than by destiny. 0:14 Chapter 1: Our destructive romantic culture 1:42 How romanticism reshaped love 7:17 The cultural myths that sabotage love 10:02 Chapter 2: Lessons on love from psychotherapy 11:20 What childhood teaches us about love 14:20 Attachment theory and early separation 17:25 When familiarity matters more than happin
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